Authenticity

​It has been said that mediation is an art form. This depiction resonates with me—when I think of art, my mind goes to the concept of being creative.
 
While there are common themes to mediation styles, I think of my own mediation style as being my signature. It is mine and no one else’s. As part of that signature, a key attribute for me as a good mediator is to be authentic.
 
Creativity is a hallmark of mediation. How a mediator practices his/her creative skills is often a matter of style. While there are common themes to mediation styles, I think of my own mediation style as being my signature. It is mine and no one else’s. As part of that signature, a key attribute for me as a good mediator is to be authentic.
 
As I consider what it means to be authentic in my role as a mediator, this is what comes to mind:
 
Being who I am
 

• Curious, which reflects my interest in what is important to you and why it’s important to you
• Transparent, meaning that I want you to know about me, why I became a mediator, why I believe in mediation, and about my experience outside of mediation, including my family
• An educator, by providing information and resources to help you make informed decisions that are acceptable and meet your future goals

 
Being present
 

• Focused on what is happening, what is being said, what is being felt
• Promoting constructive communication, where everyone is heard, and building understanding.
• Acknowledging and validating the needs that are expressed and the emotions being felt by you and by your soon-to-be ex

 
Being consistent
 

• Offering a calm and safe space for challenging conversations in each mediation session
• Providing a structured approach to mediation that allows for adaptation to individual needs
• Asking important questions to ensure that the impact of proposed decisions is properly considered
• Being responsive to all communication outside of mediation sessions, including inquiries from new clients
• Being thorough to ensure that all topics are clearly addressed in mediation

 
As a mediator, my intention is always to be trustable, available and creative in my responses. I promise to be someone you both can count on for professionalism and thoughtful, compassionate support in your divorce process.